The most important job of a parent is to bequeath their child with a legacy of his or her identity... If you don’t give them the strength to live their identity, then your children will not have the foundation upon which to build their lives.

There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots; the other, wings. — Hodding Carter Jr.

We can’t anymore, unless we are still children, blame our parents and family, because parents and family are only human beings like everybody else. They have their own problems. They have their own frailties. They have their own strengths and weaknesses. They taught us only what they know. You will finally grow up when you can walk up to the man who is your father, or woman who is your mother and say, "You know, with all your hang-ups, I love you".